Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. Men would do well not to think with their p****.

When I taught writing to freshmen in high school I always told them how important a creative hook is to get your reader interested in your piece. I'm rather proud of my "hooky" title - it even rhymes - sort of :-) By the way, this piece might not be for the younger crowd :-)







So, Tiger Woods - the lastest celebrity to fall victim to thinking with an organ other than his brain. I don't suppose cheating is anything new, but this particular episode of infidelity especially disappointed and puzzled me. I mean, you have seen Tiger's wife, haven't you? She's gorgeous - with a capital G. I know that beauty isn't everything, but geez. Anyway, when I'm puzzled with some aspect of the male psyche, I take it to my resident expert on male sexuality - my dear husband. I asked, "What was he thinking? She's beautiful - they have two little kids. Why would he jeopardize that?" And my husband, true to his straightforward, pulls-no-punches form said (and I quote), "Men like variety. You could get tired of having steak every night." Well, there ya have it! He also followed this up with more pearls of wisdom, "Men are weak; we're pigs. Monogamy is not natural for us. Plus, Tiger is in the position to be presented with lots of temptation. Don't worry, honey, I don't have lots of women throwing themselves at me." Hmmmph! How comforting :-)





Ok, men - I'm attempting to see things from your perspective, but let me enlighten you with a female perspective. (This is just mine - it doesn't necessarily hold true for all females, but I think I'm rather typical.)

I understand being physically attracted to a member of the opposite sex - there are plenty of attractive people out there. However, I don't get ruining a relationship built on trust, commitment, values, friendship, faith and family based on some physical urge. It doesn't compute with me. Women cheat too - I'm aware of that. Women also have parts of their nature that need suppressing. To me, though, we seem a little less destructive. Is that being too bias? :-)


Could you not see that this would end badly, Tiger? Could you not anticipate that trying to have more than one relationship would eventually turn disastrous? Seriously, it ALWAYS does. Perhaps I could do husbands a great service if I invented a device upon which to attach a family photo that would spring forth from the top of their head and dangle directly in the line of vision whenever a distracting pair of tatas bounced across your path. Would that work? Or would you just clip the photo off and get back to your staring?


I don't know - but there's got to be some lesson in this for both Mars and Venus.

1. Wives, (and I'm speaking to myself here too) love your husbands. If having some fun in the bedroom on a more frequent basis shows your husband how much you love and value him, and helps him control whatever freakish male nature he has, then by all means up the frequency. I know that a hot bath, a glass of wine and a good book is often at the top of your list at the end of the day, but you could always hop in the bath together??? Could be nice :-)

2. Husbands, COME ON! Help me, help you. If your wife is a mom, then she's got a huge to-do list. If she also works outside the home, then she's performing two full-time jobs. Do some laundry without asking. Take your wife to her favorite restaurant. Cook dinner. Leave her a note that tells her how much you love her. Do the dishes. Wrestle your kids. We LOVE that stuff! Really. That ups the response level tremendously.



I read somewhere that marriage is a relationship only God could've designed because to be successful, each partner had to consider the other's interests and needs before his or her own. Simply put, it's based on selflessness - just like God's actions toward us. Be a good partner. Be worthy of the love and sacrifice.


I don't know how all your marriages are. If the statistics are true, then some are good, some are bad. I do know that with forgiveness and the right help, relationships can be repaired. I pray that Tiger and his wife can repair theirs. It's worth it.